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AI - “LOVE” JAPANESE STYLE

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AI - “LOVE” JAPANESE STYLE
Taking my granddaughter to school this week, I said, “Have a good day.” I think my daughter would have said the common parental departure statement: “Love you!” Although Sam and I were “Sansei” (third generation), we were embarrassed to use the word “I love you” in our courtship and marriage. We didn’t like the casual and crude ways the words were used in the media and community where we lived.
 
I am willing to succumb to the grandchildren’s generation in use of “Love You”. But even if Sam were still living, it would be embarrassment that we would keep inside and not say to each other.
 
Sam had several creative ways of showing me his commitment and feelings beyond sex and I have no problem describing it as his love for me - flowers, candy, rings, writings. But on both our parts, it takes more thinking beyond enjoying physical gifts. 
 
Just like the Japanese word, ai encompasses a wider range of feelings, including parental love, sibling love, and affection for living beings and nature. Ai is about the acts of loving and valuing someone, often involving selflessness and a willingness to act for the other person's sake.
 
Dropping my 16-yr-old granddaughter off at her friend’s just now, I asked her how she feels about the words. I like the fact that she is thinking about the words and agrees with me. Her boyfriends do use the words with her, but she says, “We also say we respect each other”.
 
With my husband, we still would not use words, "I love you".  I feel “AI” and all it’s definitions!!!

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LISTENING TO THE MINDS OF GENIUSES, I FIND MY OWN NEGLECTED THOUGHTS!

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In many ways everyone is a gen... In many ways everyone is a genius!
Therefore, I'm loving "CONNECTIONS"!
This morning I awakened with a warm feeling in my heart. It was because I had a dream with a scene where I was deciding to go home because my love was there. 
 
The place, "home", was Ontario, Oregon, where I graduated from high school in the farming areas of Eastern Oregon and Southwestern Idaho, on both sides of the Snake River. 
 
In my dream, I was looking at the drawings in a book by my husband. He left a lot of reminders of values and geniuses that he embraced.
 
So, I'm daily working to create the "warm feeling in my heart"! I'm finding that what brings the most warm feelings are CONNECTIONS with people and talking about memories, incidents in our life, heritage values, hope, appreciating who I am in my human body - and cheering for the Seattle's Mariner baseball and Seahawk football teams :-)!!!
 
 

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REMINDERS FOR DOING THE RIGHT THINGS!!!

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"Doing what's right is hard to... "Doing what's right is hard to do when
no one knows, but doG and you!" sg
 My daughter, Kelly, got a large rock from the quarry at Preston’s Marenakos Rock Center, had it sliced in two and polished. One-half is the grave stone at the Hillcrest Cemetery in Kent, WA, with a drawing of our house that commemorates the life of Sam Goto. Sam’s sentiments fill our house. We have boxes full of sticky notes. We have word balloons on our bathroom walls, which were once filmed by KING5 TV when Kelly was in high school, in the 1980s, and interviewed by Lori Matsukawa on KING5's "Stars of Tomorrow" program. 
 
When Sam retired in 2013, he brought home boxes of his journals and notes from his Goto Dental Lab office of the saying from people he admired like Will James and Victor Frankl, as he listened to cassette tapes and the radio. He loved KVI with Bob Hardwick and Jim French's stories. I think one of the dramas was about Helen Trump: A lot of Woman in a Lot of Places; ”with a huge top drawer". I think the writers were inspired by Dolly Parton.
 
It's inspirational to go through Sam's drawings and Kelly put them in a book SEATTLE SAMURAI that you can copy and put the drawings and saying on your own walls and fridge. 
 
We daily sit and contemplate these sayings taped to the wall in our bathroom with washi tape, "BE INVOLVED WITH THINGS THAT MAKE LIFE BETTER".
 
The other rock-half has the above picture and sits on our entry steps, greeting our visitors and family as we come home to remind us of what's important in our home and life.

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WHAT IS MY JOB??

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WHAT IS MY JOB??
The story is that JFK visited NASA and ran into a custodian and asked, "What do you do?"
 
The custodian answered, "I'm helping us get to the moon."
 
Using this example and because I'm a board member,  I called the receptionist at the JCCCW (Japanese Culturall and Community Center of Washington) asking Atsuko, "What do you do?" 
 
With not too much explanation,  she answered, "I try to make the caller feel good and want to become involved." Atsuko is talking about being involved with some of the activities at the center.
 
Asking myself the same question as a blogger, I answer, "I write once a week about what I am learning from being human with Japanese Heritage living in America. " 
 
Our senior years, when my husband was alive, our purpose was to pass on stories of our heritage to our future generations.
 
My daughter came back to live with me with her two daughters who are in high school. I am strong about her taking over the house and making it her own. She likes to see me set an example for the girls of being active and continue to be involved with community and keep learning at age 86. 
 
My life is for learning, sharing and I am grateful.
 
 

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YOU DON'T HAVE TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK!

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YOU DON'T HAVE TO BELIEVE EVER...
“You don’t have to believe everything you think!” are the words on the door in my room. I printed and put up those words after I was given a “Joe Dispenza Seminar” on my computer for my birthday about 5 years ago. Dispenza is a popular author, lecturer, and researcher, focusing his work on how people can transform their lives by retraining their brains and bodies. Many of the nationally known podcasters talk about going to his week long seminars and the benefits. 
 
Joe Dispenza explains how every thought I have produces a CHEMICAL IN MY BODY and how I can learn to manage my thoughts! 
 
Joe Hudson is one of the most sought-after teachers among the world's top leaders at OpenAI, Alphabet, Apple, and more. He talks about how we benefit way more from the other parts of the body's emotional regulation, like the nervous system's heart and gut rather than "head advice".
 
Sam and I used to walk around Mercerdale Park near our home for our exercise so I avoided the park for a number of years because of the memories. I even told some friends how I get a back ache when walking.
 
For some reason I didn’t get a back ache on the treadmill. But the treadmill was put away with remodeling our basement. So, I decided to use the park walking for meditation and started telling various organs in my body how much they are appreciated and to help with chemicals to heal my back pain. It’s working!!!
 
Skeptics will laugh and say, "Of course it's the exercise." But what the heck, what's wrong with paying more attention to what I'm thinking???
 
 
 

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BRINGING IDEAS TO LIFE

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 Historical JCCCW buildings of... Historical JCCCW buildings off Rainier on Weller Street
Left: 1913; Right: around 1929
As a Sansei (third-generation Japanese American), I’m on fire with a vision of a JAPANESE CULTURAL AND COMMUNITY CENTER OF WASHINGTON, that Seattle city tour guides will direct visitors to, 100 YEARS FROM NOW! In addition to the Historically Designated buildings currently on the property from 1913, I visualize the following:  Additional iconic buildings in a Japanese architectural style, elevator-lifting-cars parking facility, a 500-people gathering space bringing enthusiastic participants from the broader community to the center, strategic rentals and a covered alley retail Street Mall. How “zen” to have tea/coffee/ramen/business transactions/ educational classes while overlooking the Kintsugi Japanese Garden!
 
The following is some history. In 1989, after twenty years of gathering documentation of the Japanese-in-America experience for the University of Washington Archives, I realized, “Seattle doesn’t have a Japanese Historical organization.” I made an appointment with Tomio Moriguchi, CEO of Uwajimaya, who suggested I talk to Chuck Kato, president of Japanese Language School & Japanese Community Service. (JLS/JCS). Chuck had tried to develop a Japanese cultural center at the Seattle JLS a couple of times during the previous 20 years. Chuck asked me to join the board, but both of us were blackballed because several board members considered us to be part of the “typically young spenders and no longer traditionally prudent”. Those board members had reestablished the JLS after the WWII incarceration of Japanese and were proud of having remained in the black financially throughout their previous thirty years from the 1950s.
 
Ten years later, by the year 2000, it became clear that younger people, such as us, were needed for fundraising and survival. In 2003 Nikkei Heritage Association was incorporated, gradually combining JLS/JCS for a broader purpose and known publicly as JCCCW. With good management and donations, the board and the Executive Director developed a balanced budget in 2020, but they realized what was needed was a funding mechanism, such as an Endowment Fund for sustainability.
 
In June 2025, I was further inspired. Because of my work with our OMOIDE (memories) writing program which I had established 34 years earlier with the late Chuck Kato, I was invited to a conference intended to establish a National Archive of Japanese-in-America Heritage stories with Professor Maruyama at the University of Connecticut. The current participants are now ready to publish OMOIDE VII for Washington State school kids, with stories of Compassion and Kindness during our hard times, including stories from outside the JA community.  
 
Due to a 28-hour weather delay, I missed my connection back to Seattle and stayed overnight in Chicago with Malia Huff, a Northwestern University friend of my daughter Kelly. Malia has been a professional fund raiser for Illinois state legislators. As she was driving me back to O’Hare, she urged me to look at JCCCW funding and gave me a mini-seminar on fundraising. 
 
I shared Malia’s ideas with several key Seattle associates, and the responses have been, “Yes, Seattle would benefit with a Japanese Cultural Center 100 years from now. WRITE OUT YOUR VISION. I am willing to help!” 
 
 
 
 
 

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WORLD'S GREATEST ENCOURAGER

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Saved the pigtails that were c... Saved the pigtails that were cut off a few years later.
Yesterday, August 2025, cousins from my mom’s youngest brother, Frank, came for a visit from Hawaii & Portland. We shared stories about their mom, Alice. My memories start with my excitement when the parents got married on January 27th, 1947 in Ontario, Eastern Oregon. I was eight-years-old. It was one of the first social events in our Japanese community in the local paper, the Ontario Argus Observer.

Especially, thrilling was being dressed with the long pretty pink dress that my mother made of sheer pink organza over pink nylon and the gold locket that I got for being flower girl. It was 4pm, and just like we had rehearsed, but now I had real rose petals in my basket. I went down the aisle first, scattering the petals along the way as I made my way way to the front of the guests sitting on folding chairs in two sections at the Ontario Women’s Club. Uncle Frank Tsukamaki married Auntie Alice Mizomoto and she became part of our family.
 
My parents were poor, so poor that we lived in a one-room farmhouse, 30 miles south across the Snake River into Idaho.  We had an outhouse, a wood/coal stove, no running hot water and no telephone. But, I never felt poor because of people in my life like Auntie Alice. From the time they were engaged Auntie took me shopping.
 
That first Easter after they married, Auntie bought me this wonderful rayon, yellow dress. The next Easter, it was a pink one. I remember, she picked me up from the farm in Sand Hollow, Idaho, and drove me to Boise. My sister, Kathy - five years younger than me, got dresses too.
 
Another incident, five years later - we had moved to Ontario by then, they dropped by our house after a summer vacation trip to California. Kathy spotted a Terri Lee Doll in the back of their station wagon. All of Kathy’s friends had the doll and she was dying for one. Auntie Alice had bought it for Christmas and I knew it.  We had an Ouiji Board and that night Kathy asked if the doll was for her and when she would get it. The answer was, “Tomorrow.” I didn’t believe it but Uncle Frank found out she had seen the doll and gave it to her the next day. I got a rhinestone necklace that was my favorite piece of jewelry for years. 
 
In 1993, when Auntie Alice turned 70-years-old we had a reunion at Sugai’s Eastside Cafe in Ontario. I went to JAE AWARDS, here in Seattle’s Beacon Hill, owned by the John Shigaki family. I had the trophy inscribed with the tribute: WORLD’S GREATEST ENCOURAGER!
 
I gave a toast, “You are remembered most for your complete dedication to helping and encouraging your husband and four children to accomplish successful lives. You were always known to be the most vocal and enthusiastic fan at all three boy’s ball games for years. It’s about time you have a trophy of your own, like the ones all over your house. You helped your family win. We could all learn a few skills from the WORLD’S GREATEST ENCOURAGER. Everyone needs an Auntie Alice!” 
 
 
 

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POWER IN BEING OF JAPANESE HERITAGE

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Drawing by Sam Goto Drawing by Sam Goto
 A few years ago, I asked my 18-yr-old granddaughter, “How do you feel about your Japanese Heritage?”
 
She answered, “It gives me energy and I feel more power?”
 
“Give me an example of when you feel like this,” I implored at that time. 
 
“Well, a couple times when I was with some friends and the subject came up, I said ‘I’m Gosei (5th generation Japanese American)’ and I felt good.”
 
Today, three years later, she is considering a journaling career and says, “All heritages are important, but I think being Japanese makes me emphasize accountability and honesty with ‘wabi-sabi’ (not needing perfection) uniqueness.”
 
This response is thrilling to me. Perhaps our parenting, my husband’s comic strips for the North American Post and our books are resonating? I have a vision for a better Pacific Northwest community because we are sharing our OMOIDE (Memories) program at the JCCCW (Japanese Cultural and Community Center of Washington). Our stories, for 5th graders are currently working on publishing OMOIDE VII. 
 
I am surprised daily with leading scientists around the world citing Japanese cultural examples. Ethnologist Frans de Waal talks about conflict resolution. His example is about how in Japan adults and teacher do not intervene in children’s fights. They consider it natural learning to let them work things out for themselves at their level, without adult or community rules. De Waal did a lot of studies with chimps and monkeys, citing, “Are we smart enough to know how smart animals are?”
 
Psychiatrist and philosopher, Iain McGilchrist, who researches the difference between the left and right hemispheres of the brain says, “The Western Culture has been mostly created by left brain activity which deals with numbers and goals.” He suggests we incorporate more Asian and particularly parts of the Japanese Culture into our lives for more balance with right brain emotions and look at our work and world as a whole instead of just parts.
 
Although it’s not empirical studies sanctioned by modern universities, the Japanese had 200 years of the Edo Period which brought the practices of the arts and cultural expectations to a PhD level.
 
As a member of the board of the JCCCW, I am picturing a tour guide, 100 years from now, bringing attention to the strong Japanese heritage values of GAMAN - enduring hardship with patience and dignity and GAMBATTE - do your best with resilience. Trust our stories shared today, will help shape our Northwest community tomorrow.
 
 

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LIVING WITH BEAUTY, CREATING PEACE!

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One of the latest creations by... One of the latest creations by my granddaughter.
The artwork is the creation of my youngest granddaughter. I’m using this to illustrate how I’m feeling this morning as I post on my blog. I’m listening to a podcast by Simon Sinek in conversation with Mo Gawdat. 
 
As I planned my weekend, I started to text a friend about having lunch and was feeling more of a social obligation than an activity that I really wanted in my heart. Listening to the podcast I heard the words, “A real friend is someone who agrees with you to grow together.” 
 
I’m thinking, “This person has made up her mind to listen to the news and the political chaos. That is not the growth that I want.” 
 
Then, I heard Gawdat talk about how he learned from his son, “The ‘gravity of the battle’ means nothing to those at peace!” Also, PEACE and clarifying THE INNER REAL ME are the podcasts I’m enjoying.
 
I had such a friend/spouse for 56 years, where we grew together. But, he passed seven years ago and I lost five lunch 50-year friends last year.  I'm being guided to write down what I want!  I wrote on my note pad: “WHAT I WANT: ‘some new friends with whom I can exchange videos I like and talk about the ideas,  with the agreement that we continue to grow together!’” The key is that I want to keep growing and I'm avoiding those that have nothing on their mind but their latest health crisis. 
 
Forty plus years ago, Sam and I set a goal to work at keeping our health because he was diagnosed with eminent Diabetes, which was inherited. He made it to age 85 doing yard work to the end and was never diagnosed as Diabetic but did secumb to related issues. I am benefiting from our attention to health, but it's clear, I need to find a new set of friends. "Hmmmmmmm? thinking!"
 
I'm excited about asking my granddaughters and their boyfriends to help me. I am inviting them to lunch or dinner tonight and next week. It’s a new thought that I get them to help me on “my new path”. I had been stuck in looking to find retired individuals who would have more time. 
 
Wow, writing things down is working!
 

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EISNER AWARD NOMINATION FOR SEATTLE SAMURAI

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Book, SEATTLE SAMURAI, featuri... Book, SEATTLE SAMURAI, featuring Sam Goto's Cartoon Strips!
Kelly, Sam Goto's daughter, has written this book and features her dad's cartoon strips that he did weekly for five years before he passed in 2017.
 
Kelly is leaving tomorrow for San Diego to go the International Comic-Con festival there because her book has been nominated for the Eisner Award.
 
Will Eisner Comic industry Awards are awards for creative achievement in American comic books. They are like the Academy Awards for the comic industry. It is exciting that the book was nominated even if she doesn't actually get the award.
 
For anyone that might be interested in the book, go to: 
         seattlesamurai.com
 
 
 
 

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