HONEST DIVERSITY
WITH RESPECT
Last week a friend told me she recommended her niece not to go as a young single person to an event in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho, because of the fear of white supremacy activity in Idaho.
My husband and I grew up in the Idaho community. We were often called "Jap". We saw signs regularly: "NO JAPS ALLOWED."
One day at the Sand Hollow, Idaho, one-room Community Church my dad and another white farmer had a disagreement. The argument continued as the congregation poured themselves out the front door onto the sand and dirt where all the cars were parked in that sun drenched desert environment. Although no blows were actually exchanged because my dad was carrying my baby sister, a ring of parishioners formed a circle around them as they argued with fists clenched. The almost fist fight was heated with words referring to "JAPs".
We changed churches!
On the other hand, my father was wise enough to invite these racist individuals to coffee and we had this farmer's daughters as baby-sitters.
Because of these experiences, I am not afraid to go to Coeur d'Alene as I have practice in finding the good in others no matter their rhetoric or outside manners. They are human and have grown up with limited defensive practice and they themselves are afraid.
There are various ways to practice the skill of being comfortable to talk and express ourselves with others. My first recommendation is always to invite someone to coffee one-on-one and ask them to talk about their own heritage.
Of course, we teach our children and practice avoiding dangerous situations like negative group dynamics.
Celeste Headlee knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In her TED talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. She also suggests not avoiding politics and religion at family dinners and other gatherings. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."
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THE BEST YEARS OF MY LIFE!!!
JoAnne and I graduated together from the U of W Psychosocial Nursing program. She currently teaches Nursing Theory in North Carolina. As we connected a couple weeks ago, she commented about this latest book sitting on her sofa and looking at her. So I ordered it as my airplane reading even if it was new and only in hardback.
As Louise Aronson M.D. ages, she realizes most research is done on the young about adulthood and childhood. We know little about what are the different normals and what is right for Elderhood.
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“Your future life will be exactly what you decide to make it.”
-Dr. Shaklee
One of the first quotes, we put up on our fridge years ago, still stands out as a good beginning and overall goal for what I want for the rest of my life.
Getting ready for the day and reading on the bathroom mirror here at my daughter's place:
"My body is always working toward optimum health. My body wants to be whole and healthy. I cooperate and become healthy whole and complete."
Healthy means, physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally!!!
What I love doing is helping myself by helping others stay on course and for sure, I will continue doing this.
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Skill building with music lessons, cultural arts and sports
provide the strongest root system
with confidence and flexibility
for facing life challenges!!
It had snowed that April Morning in 1968. Dr. Shinichi Suzuki was in Seattle for his first American tour since his method for teaching children, starting at age three, violin, piano & cello skills was brought to America from Japan.
Dr. Suzuki was staying close to our home on Seattle's Capital Hill so he was escorted through the brisk light snow as he walked to our house for lunch. It's embarrassing now, but I was young and naive and decided he would be missing Japanese food here in America so I invited him and made Rice and Tempura.
He was particularly attentive to three-year-old Lynette and six-month-old Kelly. He explained the reason he suggested starting lessons at age three was so the children can get in the 10 years it takes to build a skill before they reached their teen years and have distractions. Also mothers have to bring them to the lessons and are involved in the skill building.
The master was clear, the main purpose was to develop character and not professionals. Learning to play the violin is one of the most difficult endeavors. Accomplishing something hard helps us learn confidence being in front of people.
Fifty-one years later, Lynette, Kelly and their mother, Dee, are facing the storms in our life and have no problem bending so we don't break. There is little doubt skill building activities make a difference.
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"Your future life will be exactly what you choose to make it."
-Dr. Forrest Shaklee
When KK & Jodi first arrived in Seattle from Hawaii, I took them to have a treat at the Panama Hotel Tea & Coffee Shop on Main Street because part of our Goto heritage is featured there. The book now in half a dozen languages, HOTEL ON THE CORNER OF BITTER SWEET by Jamie Ford is about this hotel. Because of a water issues the front door was gated, but I saw Jan sitting out on the sidewalk outside her lower door having tea and enjoying the gorgeous Seattle Summer afternoon. I rolled down the car window and called out, “Jan, why are you closed?”
Jan calls back, “Hi Dee, I’m open, park over there and come on in.”
We spend the next two hours taking a tour of her hotel rooms, all decorated in beautiful vintage themes. And we hear the story of how she bought the hotel 37 years ago. Jan’s story starts on Seattle’s Beacon Hill where her father was an immigrant carpenter, taking the name Johnson on Ellis Island. Jan, as she tells the story, starting at three or four years old learning carpentry, electrical/plumbing skills from her Dad and often took the bus by herself to the library down town herself at age six or seven.
Jan had her own designer clothing business in Rome in her 20s. For some reason she came back to Seattle and rented an office in Seattle’s old Japan Town. Tak Hori who owned the Panama Hotel had been looking for 14 years to find the right buyer for his hotel. Jan tells KK, “I’m telling this story to you. This is for you young people. With no credit, no collateral, no experience Key Bank gave me the loan. You can do and get anything you really want.”
She interrupts her story and goes out to the sidewalk to send a homeless person, harassing an elderly neighbor walking her dog, on his way. Then she comes back and tells us some more stories about this historical site which she got registered on the list of historic places nationally.
Jan is in her 80s, has no elevator, uses all the old fashioned stairs, points out the beauty of the architecture - the lighting, the natural air conditioning, the 100 keys on her key chain as she still does most of the maintenance herself. She is looking for the right buyer. We joke, “It’s going to take you 14 years to find the right buyer too!”
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Appreciate being surrounded with positive energy
that I love sharing
to attract the things I want in my life.
This past week, I was blest with visitors, Jodi & KK, from Hilo, Hawaii. I love the confidence almost 17-yr-old KK shows as she attended Tennis Camp at the Sandpoint Tennis Center. There is no doubt about why she is third in her age group from Hawaii as she competes in national tennis tournaments.
"Make strong choices, go with your instinct." I just heard this quote and as I explain KK's demeanor, she totally goes with what she thinks is right and is clear about expressing herself. She says she has no intention of going on to professional tennis, but the skills she is acquiring will get a scholarship to college and connections to the Universal Minds of success.
The whole week, KK kept encountering "coincidences" like I've described in the previous blogs. On the 4th of July, we went to Daiso in Bellevue to shop. As we were in the checkout line, the person behind calls KK's name in recognition. The person was someone they knew from Maui on the Tennis circuit. Also, during the time KK was at the tennis camp the coach from Whitman College, John Hein, happened to be in Seattle and saw KK's name as one of the participants and called.
What a week of positive energy!
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CONNECTING TO UNIVERSAL
ANSWERS FOR SUCCESS!!
In 1976, Sam and I went to learn how to buy fixer up houses and use them as our retirement income. Forty-Three years later, what is left after taxes is an important part of my retirement income.
The best part of the learning was on how to use our UNIVERSAL/SUPERCONSCIOUS MIND to get and accomplish the things in life that bring us fulfillment and happiness. I share this principle as often as I can as I do my nutritional and family counseling with the Shaklee opportunity.
One of the exercises we learned was of how successful people are able to open the gate (green arrow above) to the Superconscious or Universal Mind. We learned about Napoleon Hill in his book, THINK AND GROW RICH (not just money rich, but money is important too) interviewing people like President Hoover. Hoover went into a quiet room and practiced a form of meditation to open his gate to get answers to his issues and questions.
To open the green gate to the Superconscious mind, we can deliberately fill our SubConscious mind with positive thoughts. The easiest way to do this is to make a list of fun and happy experiences in our lives and read them at bedtime. Our Subconscious mind is a tape recorder and is filled with positive+ and negative- thoughts. It is suggested that successful people have more positive thoughts in their bank.
We further practiced:
1. Write: that means to literally write a question and phrase it in a positive way as to something I want to accomplish. For instance, "What is the best way to..."
2. Try: that means to brainstorm as many ways as I can think of to answer my question.
3. Ask: after the first two steps, I then turn it over to my Universal Mind and go to sleep.
I did this regularly as I built my Shaklee business and I would wake up with an idea and act on it.
Today, I continue to use this tool as I plan and continue the things that are important to me - "Bringing out the best in myself and others."
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OUR LIFE FILLED WITH SERENDIPITY!!
Last week Heidi came to help me clear out some of Sam’s Dental Lab equipment stored on shelves in our GOK (God Only Knows) room downstairs. We talked about how she and Luli took such good care of Dr. Branch as dental assistant and office manager and best friends with Sam all those years in the Medical Dental Building.
We loaded what we could carry and filled her car as she was on her way to the GoodWill place on Dearborn. Minutes after leaving my Mercer Island driveway, Heidi was at a stop light and felt the urge to Text Dr. Branch. She caught him as he had left his Magnolia house and was on his way to his Roslyn get-away. They met on Seattle’s Rainier Street and he wanted it all.
What a coincidence! Heidi says, “Yes I am a firm believer in them. I think Sam did have a hand in the seamless transition of his lab equipment. That was just too strange. Dr B could’ve left any time and been anywhere.”
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SYMBOL OF PERSISTENCE
GOAL SETTING PRACTICE
STAY BALANCED
These reminders of persistence and goal setting need to be revisited daily and I appreciate having these symbols around to remind me of remembering the activities that "truly move my soul".
I like to think about these things; but mostly, I need to share with family and friends to get the adrenalin going and to feel inspired about my life daily.
I've know about using the Daruma for setting middle range goals of about one year in the future. That is to get a Daruma Doll with blank eyes from places like Seattle's Uwajimaya store. The next step is to set a goal for something I want to accomplish in the next year or so. I did that often for the early years of my Nutrition and Family Counseling business with Shaklee.
What I learned when I helped Tsuguo Ikeda write his book IKE'S PRINCIPLES was that it's also important to be reminded that when we are knocked over, like the symbol of the Daruma, it's important to recover quickly.
I've recently listened to people like Mel Robbins and her 5 second Rule along with Hal Elrod and his 5 minute rule.
It's funny to hear Hal Elrod talk about the time he was told he would be in wheel chair the rest of his life. He quickly decided that he was going to the happiest person in a wheel chair he could imagine.
Later Hal Elrod found himself in a "knocked down position" and as he was setting the timer on his watch, he realized that it was becoming difficult after the first minute or two to keep his outrage going for the rest of the 5 minutes!!!
I'm remembering that I had a huge argument with Anna B about BALANCE being the most important part of our lives when I first started my business. Forty years later, I should call Anna in Alabama and ask her if she has changed her mind???
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LEARNING TO EXPECT TO FALL/FAIL
FALLING CORRECTLY SO ONE GETS BACK UP
Ike has been gone for almost 10 years but I still feel his presence because he taught me this principle of learning to fall/fail and I have cartoon strips like this to remind me of this great lesson of going through life. One of the first skills taught in Judo practice is to learn to fall correctly - learn to expect to fall and learn to roll so that one gets back up again without getting hurt. THE SECRET is to practice over and over again until it is automatic and no longer takes thinking.
Most recently, I have been challenged to reorganize my life with a new paradigm of circumstances and players in my life. There are many encounters where I face a difference of opinion and critical comments. I am practicing a way to “roll” and not get hurt. Therefore, I can get up and try again.
Last weekend, I spent a couple days with my friend who lives in Raymond, WA. She is originally from Japan. We spent two days, non-stop talking and recalling all the failures in our lives that we have overcome. It was an incredible feeling of fulfillment and renewal.
I learned in research that talking and having a listener is at the top of the list of STRESS RELIEF.
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