VICTIM SCALE VS HERO SCALE - INNER VOICE COACHING CHOICES
4月
29日
The other day, I had coffee with an acquaintance. She went on and on, “This world is falling apart.”
I’ve been listening to a Price Pritchett podcast. He is one of the foremost experts on fast-growth and personal development strategies the last forty years that is still relevant. I mentioned in our family discussion, Pritchett says, “There are two scales of the voice inside us. One is the ‘Victim Scale (negative thinking)’ and the other is the ‘Hero Scale (positive thinking)’. Research shows that we get farther ahead in life and faster by cutting down on the negative voice rather than being more positive.”
The thing that get’s us tangled up is that 70% of our thinking is habitual and shows up in five ways: Complaining, Criticizing, Concern, Commiserating, Catastrophizing. When we actually want to change and make that quantum leap, the first thing the body faces is to worry about the “dangers”. The second voice is a drop in “self trust”. This is all wired into mankind from the cave-man days.
So, the take-away advice is not necessarily the value of being optimistic or positive thinking. That activity is on a whole different scale. People see me as seeing the bright side of life, which comes easily to me; but separately, I am better off working on reducing the Victim Scale.
Personally, I have avoided daily national and local news programs. Secondly, I am learning to forgive people who have hurt me and habitually speak “victim rhetoric”, by loving them from afar.
Third, I’m helping administrate a KIP TOKUDA MEMORIAL grant for our JCCCW writing group OMOIDE VII. The grant was created to not forget the tragedy of Executive Order 9066 where with only 1/16th Japanese Heritage 120,000 individuals were incarcerated during WWII. Our stories have shown resilience, but with this new grant we are collecting stories of “Compassion”, including the larger non-Japanese community, where neighbor to neighbor-friend to friend, they helped overcome the hard times of imprisonment and discrimination.
I’m setting a personal goal with these Washington State funds to: “LOWER THE VICTIMIZATION SCALE, one conversation at a time, with story sharing around the state to also lower the “victimization scale” of today - SPREADING RIPPLES OF COMPASSION AND GRATITUDE.