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BALLAD OF TOM MIYAO

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Keepsake dice with Tom's initi... Keepsake dice with Tom's initials given to Sam Goto in 1951
We took a side trip to Northern Nebraska on a 1995 fossil hunting trip through Montana, Wyoming, South Dakota where Tom had lived. All through our 30 years of marriage, I had constantly heard from Sam, “The best steak I’ve ever had was on the trip to Cody, Nebraska, with Dad and Fred in 1951. Tom knew how to age it and cook it JUST RIGHT!”. We could never duplicate that memory, but we tried one more time.

Smiling, we commented on the Highway-20 sign, “CODY NEBRASKA, Population 177”, “Civilization? In the middle of miles of nothing.”  We were greeted by children, vigorously waving from their yards, as we passed a couple houses. Easily finding the only restaurant, we parked, climbed the few old steps and opened the weather protecting double doors. The place was almost empty as it was already 2PM. Sam could see two seventy-plus ladies at the far wall booth, with tips already on the table. Without hesitation, Sam walked briskly over and asked, “Have you lived here long?”

One of the ladies, with questioning eyes and a tilt of her head, happily answered, “Yes!”.

Sam quickly went on, “My Dad had a cousin named Tom…”

She grinned and interrupted, throwing up her hands, “You mean Tommy Miyoo?! I used to work for him! I started as a teenager.”

Here’s what we learned:

Grandpa Goto had a cousin,
His name was TOM MIYAO.
He came from Hiroshima,
And worked at cooking chow.

He might have worked on the railroad
Spending time at the local bar.
We know for sure he lived in Grandview, Montana
All through the first World War.

He learned to deal cards In Billings,
Then was Winner, South Dakota, bound.
Tom was a regular gambler,
But one of the nicest ones around.

Old Jack Stotts brought him down from Winner
To manage the Cody, Diamond X Cafe.
Tom drove a fancy green convertible,
Visiting Goto cousins in Nampa, Idaho, that way.

Once he lost his diamond ring,
The help looked high and low,
Through the one street alley of Cody,
A week, a month or so.

Staring out the restaurant window,
The sun flashed on a facet.
Tom ran out to the alley,
Recovering his valuable asset.

When the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor,
Tom thought it was a disgrace.
He went several days into hiding 
And wouldn’t show his face.

They say Tommy was patriotic,
And all were recipients of his treats.
As men (some women) left for service,
Each got money, cigarettes and sweets.

Don Adams, the postmaster, laughs about,
Hershey Bar treats for his one-year-old son.
“Go wash, face dirty,” Tom would chuckle,
Making sure the duty was done.

According to Mildred Chubbs, his waitress,
Whom we’d met at the Cody Bar and Grill.
She’d worked through the late1930s and 40s,
Meeting us relatives, was a special thrill.

It turns out she is the town historian
And with Helen, her friend,
Went home and got some pictures,
Taking us to the cemetery at the end.

Tommy was a drinker
Which was his final downfall, and alas,
He chased some whiskey with ammonia
The cleaning lady had left in a glass.

The grave read: July 7, 1888 - January 21, 1963
Tom was 74-years-old when he died.
Colorful, but unremarkable gambler, drinker,
At a distance, his relatives had decried.

But those who live in Cody, valued him as family.
And to his grave, residents still bring flowers,
Thanking him for years of love and service,
Painfully, remembering his final hours.

No, we did not have a chance to try a steak in Cody. A few years latter in Dallas, TX, we came close with a $30 steak at one of the hotels there.

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HAPPINESS IS NOT A DESTINATION; HAPPINESS IS A DIRECTION

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Quote that has been on our kit... Quote that has been on our kitchen fridge for 50 years!!!
"We need adversity to keep us vigilant, safe and to learn." - Arthur Brooks
I just awakened from a nightmare!! In my dream, I all of a sudden lost the convertible car I was driving along with our dog and purse in which I was carrying a few hundred dollars. I managed to call my husband and retraced my steps, but finally, we decided I had to get a job with my nursing skills to make up for the loss.

Nothing like waking up to find that it was a dream!!! The seed for loving life more this morning.
 
Today, I'm listening to Tim Ferris as he interviews Arthur Brooks, Harvard professor of Happiness studies who grew up in Seattle. It also drives me crazy to hear the standard goal in life: "I want to be happy!" I like his suggestion that we work to achieve "HAPPIERNESS".

Brooks says, "Three big areas one can address to work on HAPPIER Is:
     1. Looking for Enjoyment.
     2. Finding Satisfaction.
     3. Deciding on Purpose and Meaning for one's life."

There is one question Brooks poses with which I disagree. In searching for meaning he suggests: "What are you willing to die for?" 

I look at life here on earth a little differently.  Dying is easy.  It's not something to be afraid of. Life and struggles are a privilege.  I think the question should be, "What are you willing to live for?"
 
Two incidents have clarified Meaning for me. When our first daughter was born, I stared at the miracle of life who was nothing a year earlier.  It occurred to me that I would see great grandchildren!  I decided I wanted to see responsible, kind, resilient, truth telling individuals. Therefore, I asked myself, "What do I need to do to parent Lynette, who would need to parent her future children to parent?"

We're almost there as our first  grandson is getting married soon and Lynette and Joe have done great so far.  Of course, the purpose needs to extend to the children of all five of our grandchildren with building character.

The second incident was in 1972 when I was a teacher's assistant at Stevens Elementary School in Seattle. Juanita Thomas was my head teacher and I learned so much from her with many deep philosophical discussions.  One night I had a dream that I was carried up in rapture and ALL I HAD TO DO WAS BELIEVE.  I do believe in God along with doing what's right. All the requirements of various human led groups are choices that I may or may not want to abide by, depending on what I want for social connections.

For sure, I'm happier to be daily listening to good advice, starting each morning with thoughts of thankfulness, making plans for being happier each day and sharing with others on this blog.

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WORKING ON MY MILLION-PIECE LIFE JIGSAW PUZZLE

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PURPOSE OF LIFE? PURPOSE OF LIFE?
My soul is like a million-piece jigsaw puzzle. The purpose of this life of mine is to work on my own puzzle and at least work to put several thousand pieces together this lifetime if there is reincarnation. 

I spent a lot of my growing up years watching work on my parent’s puzzles to learn how to work on my own puzzle. I also watched work on other mentor’s puzzles to learn. Getting a formal education, being married and raising children helped me learn more about setting an example, creating part of the picture, for future generations.

Now that my partner is gone, I’m spending a lot of hours listening to podcasts that are giving me brief glimpses of the picture on the cover of my puzzle box.

I’m excited to see some of the pictures of memories coming together with my puzzle as I share stories. It’s also a whole lot of fun to help other friend’s work on their puzzles as long as I am clear that it is their story and I don’t neglect my own!

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