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- BENEFITS OF LIVING IN A THREE-GENERATION-HOUSEHOLD!
BENEFITS OF LIVING IN A THREE-GENERATION-HOUSEHOLD!
3月
22日
A little over a year earlier in November 1937, six families had caravanned east from the Seattle area to start their lives over again in Eastern Oregon and Western Idaho, there along the Snake River that divides Idaho and Oregon because the Owyhee Dam provided new farming opportunities.
I was an infant and treated like a princess. Also living with my grandfather, and my adult uncles, I gained self-esteem and learned the Japanese language. Now, 84 years later, I value the heritage values of, commitment to the welfare of family and others, setting goals, working diligently and not quitting.
Five years ago, I became a widow. Three years ago, just before the Covid Pandemic Shut Down, my second daughter and her girls, 12 and 10, came to live with me. So now I’m the senior in our three-generation-household.
The girls are surrounded with the values that my husband and I created. If I am wise like my grandpa and not say too much, the girls listen to what I think. My purpose in life is to hand down our heritage values in the form of stories. There is no story that others have not similarly experienced.
The other day, I listened to Professor John Vervaeke and he made a statement: “Love is not a emotion or a feeling, Love is a commitment”. After I heard that, it was time for me to pick the girls up from school. As I picked them up, I had them in the car with me and I was able to have a discussion about what they thought about that statement.
Everyone shows up promptly when it’s dinner-time. It’s a habit and we are able to have a few discussions about our day. We’ve been slack in enforcing that each member of the family take turns and no one leaving the table until everyone has their turn, reminding me that it takes good parenting to keep these traditions going.
I have turned most of the household and responsibilities over to my daughter without any problems and we get along fine. But the girls have stated that we argue. So, I was working not to make disagreement statements. Then, I heard a lecture from Psychologist, Jordon Peterson. He says, “It’s important to verbalize our difference of opinion and we don’t have to avoid them. What’s important is that the children see how we resolve our differences, make-up and get along.”
I am on my way home to Seattle after staying 10 days with my Cousin Ron and his wife, Gay. Their son, his wife and two grandchildren live with them. We had long discussions about the benefits of living a three-generation-houshold life!
